You can't win them all, ladies & gentlemen: Episode 3 Misunderstandings by Jenny Moore on Mixcloud

Jenny Moore, YCWTALAG Theme tune, 00:00
Housemusic, Chloe Cooper, Holly Pester, Luke Crookes, Sian Robinson Davies, Steven Ounanian, Intro & Jingle 1, 02:04
Patrick Coyle, in collaboration with Jenny Moore, I can see you can you see, 04:08
Finding Fanon, Part 1 of 3 (2015) by Larry Achiampong & David Blandy, 15:40
Sian Robinson Davies, Conversations (performed with Simon Raven, Niki Russell, Jenny Moore), 19:41
Housemusic, Jingle 2, 28:20
Chloe Cooper and Luke Crookes, Voicing Voices, 29:44
Larry Achiampong and David Blandy, Finding Fanon, Part 2 of 3, 36:30
Simon Clark, Do the Cou Cou, 40:20
Morgan Parker, 3 poems (recorded in New York 2015), 50:24
Housemusic, Holly Pester and Steven Ounanian, Reactor Score, 56:46
JM, Interval, 1:01:32
Housemusic, Jingle 3, 1:05:18
Steven Ounanian, Phone recordings and interview with artist, 1:07:01
Holly Pester, Reading of a poem / radio play, 1:22:40
Larry Achiampong & David Blandy, Finding Fanon, Part 3 of 3, 1:28:43
Megan Pickering, Challenging misunderstandings about sex, brought to you by 1:36:40

Recorded live at Reactor Halls, Primary in Nottingham UK
May 2015
A list compiled by Megan Pickering for
You can’t win them all, ladies and gentlemen at Reactor Halls May 2015

Challenging Misunderstandings About Sex

• First time sex does not have to hurt. The pain that young women can experience during first time sex comes from increased muscle tension due to nervousness. Blood usually comes from vaginal tissue tearing due to lack of lubrication not the hymen breaking. Taking time to feel relaxed and using lubrication can stop any pain from occurring during first time sex.

• ‘Virginity’ is heteronormative and ignores LGBTQIA+ people. There are many ways of having sex that does not involve penetration. ‘Foreplay’ is sex too!

• Some people have a fluid sexuality, such as queer, bisexual and pansexual. They are not greedy or indecisive.

• Sex is about pleasuring yourself and your partner. Everyone has the right to enjoy sex and express their sexuality without harm.

• It’s okay to change your mind during sex at anytime.

• If you’re in a relationship with someone, they don’t have a right to have sex or do sexual stuff with you if you don’t want to.
• ‘Lesbian sex’ and ‘Gay sex’ is sex.

• It’s ok to have sex with only one person, multiple people, yourself or nobody.

• Sexting is your choice. Revenge porn ie. passing on a sext is not okay.

• Not all sex results in an orgasm.

• Masturbation is healthy. People of all genders enjoy it and some people don’t, that’s fine.

• It’s often hard for people with vulvas to orgasm through penetration alone. Most people need to stimulate the clitoris to have an orgasm and enjoy sex.

• The only purpose of the clitoris is to provide sexual pleasure.

• Everyone with a clit should know how to use it!

• Labias are all different shapes and sizes and they are all normal.

• Sexuality is a spectrum, and can sometimes change.

• Lesbians can get STIs

• It’s okay to take a while figuring out your sexuality.

• People of all genders can enjoy porn. However it’s important to know that mainstream porn can be unrealistic and unrepresentative.

• Young people want diverse and realistic porn.

• 50 Shades is a misrepresentation of kinky sex.

• Safe words should always be respected in BDSM.

• Condoms don’t kill the mood.

• Lesbians use condoms too.

• Female ejaculation is a real thing.

Sexuality definitions:

Heterosexual: A girl who only fancies boys, or a boy who only fancies girls is called heterosexual.
Homosexual (gay/lesbian): People who are homosexual are attracted to the same sex (boys fancy boys and girls fancy girls). Homosexual men are often called gay and homosexual women are often called lesbians but can also be called gay.
Bisexual or bi: People who are bisexual are attracted to both boys and girls
Pansexual: Pansexual people are people attracted to people regardless of their gender.
Asexual (or ace): People who are asexual or ace don’t feel sexually attracted to anyone and feel no desire to have sex.
Queer: The word queer is a term covering all non-straight sexualities. It was originally used as an insult, but now some people choose to call themselves queer because they don’t feel like other labels for sexuality fit them properly.
LGB: LGB stands for lesbian, gay and bisexual.
LGBT+: LGBT stands for 'lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, plus'. At Brook, we use the term LGBT+ to cover people who are not heterosexual and/or who are not cisgender. The ‘+’ ensures all gender identities and sexual orientations are included.